We have two ears and one mouth, therefore we should listen twice as much as we speak.
—Zeno of Citium
Silence when used correctly is a powerful tool to have in your mental arsenal. We are in an age of living where noise is ubiquitous and quite frankly distracting; silence has become a rare and undervalued commodity. For me using silence in a variety of ways has had a profound effect on an enhanced way of living over the last few months.
One of the most significant benefits I’ve gathered from staying quiet is that it can help me to focus and think more clearly. When we are surrounded by noise and distractions, it can be challenging to concentrate on our thoughts. I’ve recently abolished my social media (including this Newsletter) and mass media intake by about 90%, and now my phone usage has plummeted to the point where using my devices are now useful, and they are working for me as opposed to the other way around.
I say 90%, as I work in an online environment for a good proportion of the year, and it would be detrimental for me to stay offline for the foreseeable. This has given me the space I need to work through problems and come up with new ideas, and make decisions effectively and with ease. I’m also not drawn to every trend and impulse which in the grand scheme of things are irrelevant for me.
Secondly, for communication purposes; sometimes, the most powerful message I can send is the one that is left unsaid. By being silent, I can convey a sense of seriousness if needed, it works great for deeper contemplation, or even surprise. For example, talking to people I know in real life or over the phone - I find the range of conversation and subjects that come up are of greater value, as opposed to seeing everything through a digital lens, or finding out bits of information through secondary, or even tertiary sources.
I cherish the time I have with people, because I don’t have instant access to these interactions. This use of silence can be particularly useful in situations where words may fail me, or where I want to convey a message without causing offence.
Be silent for the most part, or, if you speak, say only what is necessary and in a few words. Talk, but rarely, if occasion calls you, but do not talk of ordinary things—of gladiators or horses races or athletes or of meats or drinks—these are topics that arise everywhere…
— Epictetus
Another benefit of silence is that it can be incredibly calming and restorative. In my life, I can often forget to take the time to be quiet and still. However, by intentionally creating moments of silence, I can give myself the opportunity to relax and recharge. This can be especially beneficial for mental health purposes, as it allows me to step back from the chaos of life and simply be present in the moment. Instead of being told how to feel by media outlets, and caught up with others in a frenzy.
A connection with nature and is important to me, and using silence also allows me to connect with the natural world and the vastness of the universe. Whether it's a serene walk in nature or taking a cold water plunge; the silence provides an opportunity to tune in to the beauty and wonder of the world around us. It instills a sense of awe, humbleness, and as a reminder of my place in the grand scheme of things.
In addition to these personal benefits, I’ve noticed silence can also be a powerful tool in a working environment. In a time where meetings and conversations dominate our working hours, it can be easy to overlook the value of quiet contemplation and reflection. However, by taking the time to be silent and reflect my work and purpose, I have gained valuable insights and make better decisions to be an effective operator.
By intentionally creating moments of quiet in your life, you can tap into this power and unlock new levels of personal and professional growth, with a little practice and self discipline needed. Give it a try if you can.
Memento mori,
Enda
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